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Learning to Take Initiative
The wife and I got into a little tiff (or what I call a stupid argument) the other night. I cracked a joke and the response I got was not what I expected. So I took it personally and then that made us both upset. She was joking back to me and did not mean for me to take her response the way I did.
We went to bed without talking and hardly said anything to each other the next morning. It was bad. I took it personally and didn’t take the initiative to say that I was sorry for getting so upset (and making her upset). But she apologized! She came to me first and gave me a big hug. She took the initiative. Man - I felt weak and very humble in front of her. She was the bigger person and she helped patch a little piece of our marriage.
One thing that Stu Weber harps on in Tender Warrior is that manhood takes initiative. Manhood takes charge in giving forgiveness, in love and in saying that you’re sorry. I read this the evening after my wife came to me and apologized and it really hit home. It’s a great book - and I say that only being about 100 pages into it. I’ll write more about the book later.
And there’s not a lot out there on learning to take initiative…not even on Google. It’s pretty tough to just start taking initiative (it’s also pretty hard to type) but to me, initiative equals confidence. If you don’t have the confidence about a situation, then you can’t comfortably take initiative. And confidence comes from faith and trust.
This all goes back to building my foundation. It’s going to take some time and a lot of learning along the way.
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Yes, I can make a one-decade knotted rosary with one large Our Father bead.
The crosses I have don’t come in black or brown, and the darkest color of bead I have is dark brown, as seen on my wooden beaded Cross Chaplet.
But - all is not lost!! I have connections that can make me a nice black cross and bead, if black is your preferred color. I can talk any one of the guys in our carpentry shop at work to refinish a cross and bead in black, easily.
I can do 10 black wooden beads on the hemp rosary, using the small beads like the ones on my cross chaplet. That should be very easy. I’ll bet it’d look classy yet modest and dignified. Would you like me to give it a try?