I can still hear it in my ear today.
Read it…Write it…Hear it…
Good ol’ mom would use those words whenever I was having trouble grasping a concept during grade school. And it still holds true today – even more so if you’re trying to build your modern day Camelot. It is very simple yet very effective and it can help you become a better father and husband. Read it…write it…hear it…
Read it…This one is pretty simple. In order to grasp a concept you need to read up on the subject. Read blogs…read websites…read something. If you’re trying to become a better father and husband, knowledge of how to do so won’t just pop into your head. If I wanted to learn physics, I wouldn’t sit around and wait for divine intervention to kick in. I’d read a book…start somewhere.
Write it...Again – pretty simple. To reinforce something that you have read, you need to write it. Don’t copy it, but write what it means to you. Your brain will absorb the information, but until you write it down, it won’t really stick. After you write something down (and read it – see above) you’ve have a better understanding of what you just read.
Hear it…You catching on? This is easy. Read out loud what you read and wrote down. Hearing it is the final step in locking in the concept that your trying to learn. After you hear something, your brain has been hit from all sides and has no choice but to remember what you’re trying to learn. Reading and writing are powerful ways to learn, but you need to hear yourself say it to seal the deal.
Pretty easy right? Anyone who wants to be a better father and husband can do it.
Read books and blogs about fathers and husbands trying to be better. There are a lot of them out there and you’ll feel better about yourself and your journey. You’ll soon learn that you’re not alone and many guys out there are in the same boat. If you want a great read – pick up something from Stu Weber.
Write down things that you love about your wife and kids. Write them down and remember where you put them. You’ll want to refer to these often. Heck – start a blog about it. This is a good way to reinforce the love that you have for your wife and children. Send your wife love letters or start a journal for your daughter. Whatever it is – write it down.
Let them hear you say that you love them. Let them know that you appreciate what they mean to you. Not only will you benefit from this – so will your wife and kids. Plus, like I said above, it is a great way to solidify your new knowledge.
Learning something new takes time. So give it time, and let it set in.
–TW
